Woman wants to save her friend from an unideal proposal, internet intervenes

Brad Dickson • Managing Editor

Feb 19, 2023 1:00 PM EST

We want the best for those that we care about—this can sometimes present a moral quandary… Is it ethical to do something that would be otherwise unethical if it saves said loved one from certain disaster? This can be incredibly difficult to get your head around, providing a much more difficult philosophical dilemma than whether or not someone is wrong for stealing their roommate's cat. The idea of doing harm to prevent a greater one brings a certain trolley problem to mind: Is it wrong to do something bad if it prevents something worse?

The internet certainly seemed to think so, declaring this friend, who sought to warn her friend of their boyfriend's surprise proposal to avert her disappointment, to be the "a**hole" in this situation.

Let's be honest here, the boyfriend doesn't seem to be a particular ray of sunshine; perhaps the friend would be better off without him, but these aren't decisions we get to meddle in or make for others.

What's your take? Who's the a**hole here?